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by Betty Jean Lifton

ISBN: 0312187661
Author: Betty Jean Lifton
Language: English
Publisher: St. Martin's Griffin (April 15, 1998)
Pages: 288
Category: Psychology
Subcategory: Medicine
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Twice Born: Memories of an Adopted daughter traces her journey and feelings. At the time she was told her birth parents were dead and she was adopted, Lifton was seven and sick from scarlet fever. The timing could not have been worse.

Twice Born: Memories of an Adopted daughter traces her journey and feelings. The experience itself caused significant problems for Lifton, and the questions about her birth parents lingered for decades.

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Bibliographic Details. Title: Twice Born: Memoirs of an Adopted Daughter. Betty Jean Lifton, acclaimed author of several books on the psychology of the adtoped that have helped open the field, tells her own story of growing up adtoped in the closed adoption system. Publisher: St. Martin's Griffin. Publication Date: 1998. Calling Twice Born both an autobiography and a psychological journey into the past, Lifton takes the reader with her as she describes the loneliness and islolation of an adopted child cut off from the knowledge of her heritage.

Betty Jean Lifton, a writer, adoptee and adoption-reform advocate whose books - searing condemnations of the secrecy that traditionally shrouded adoption - became touchstones for adoptees throughout the world, died on Nov. 19 in Boston. She was 84 and lived in Cambridge, Mass. The cause was complications of pneumonia, her husband, the psychiatrist and author Dr. Robert Jay Lifton, said

Betty Jean Lifton, American writer. Journey Of The Adopted Self: A Quest For Wholeness ) Betty Jean Lifton, whose Lost and Found has become a bible t. .

Betty Jean Lifton, American writer. Dorot Foundation grantee, 1983-1984, 85-86, Ford Foundation grantee, 1981-1982, Memorial Foundation for Jewish Culture grantee, 1980-1981, 82-83, New Land Foundation grantee, 1979-1980, 80-81, Astor Foundation grantee, 1973. Journey Of The Adopted Self: A Quest For Wholeness ) Betty Jean Lifton, whose Lost and Found has become a bible to adoptees and to those who would understand the adoption experience, explores further the inner world of the adopted person.

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The classic memior of Betty Jean Lifton's search for her secret past that helped open the way for so many others.Betty Jean Lifton, acclaimed author of several books on the psychology of the adtoped that have helped open the field, tells her own story of growing up adtoped in the closed adoption system. Calling Twice Born both an autobiography and a psychological journey into the past, Lifton takes the reader with her as she describes the loneliness and islolation of an adopted child cut off from the knowledge of her heritage. She explores the ambivalence and guilt that she feels toward her adoptive parents when she awakens as an adult to her need to ask: Who am I?With the mounting suspense of a detective novel, Twice Born explores not only the difficulty of searching for one's past when one's records are sealed, but also the complexity of trying to reunite with the birth mother from whom one has been separated by social taboos--and by time.More than a vivid and poinant memior, Lifton has given hs a story of mothering and mother-loss attachment and bonding, secrets and lies, and the human need for origins. Important reading for anyone touched by these issues and by the experience of adoption--which is everyone.

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Urreur

Originally published in 1975 when it was taboo for an adoptee to talk about what it was like being adopted. The thing that struck me is how she aptly portrayed the struggles; the ongoing struggle with dual identity as the adopted child and searching for her biological roots. She also showed the continual pull between wanting to please her adoptive parents and trying to be true to her own self. She shows how it is normal for an adoptee to be curious about or driven to know their origins and how the US government blocks and thwarts their efforts - and why should this be? (Why should this be? her fighting in 1975 in New York is STILL a fight for adoptees in 2015.) It was sad to see the original mother was so frozen in time that she was unable to have or give a meaningful relationship with the author.
Highly Recommend this book - you will NOT be disappointed!

Shakagul

Being a birth Mother who set out to find her son when he was 21, I try to read everything concerning adoptions. Everything about the Triad. Everything about how adoptees feel. Fortunately for me, I was able to locate my son (I had chosen his adoptive family
because they had two daughters and I wanted my son to have siblings.) I was able to put him through the school of his choice and
assist him in finding employment in his field. I have supplied as much information about family health issues and am available at
any time my son needs me. I spent 10 years tracking down his Father and finally was able to connect my son to him. Nothing is easy. My son has met many members of my Family, and one or two of his Father's. He married a woman I introduced him to, who is also
an adoptee. I felt that having that in common was so unique and I had know her since she was a school girl. Fortunately, they
married, are happy and have two children. They are a creative family & a happy one. Not everyone gets that much of the pie.
I have tried to fill empty spaces and answer questions, to the best of my ability. I love my son and he knows it. He is my only son.
The others are stepsons. Does everything work out perfectly? Hardly! But he is my blood and I would do anything for him or either of my Grandchildren. You make the best life you can and you make the "adoptee" feel as welcomed, needed, wanted - no strings attached -- as you can. My son and I have excellent communications and, keeping with pact I made with him, when we first reconnected, he will always know where I am and how to get in touch with me. I am at his side whenever he needs me to be. He has grown into a beautiful human being and one with whom I much in common. I have the luxury of telling my son, every time we talk, that I love him, that I am proud of him and that I am always here for him, no matter the reason.

Nakora

In this wonderful volume, BJ Lifton conquers the ghost territory known only to members of the adoption triad--adopted children, birth parents and adoptive parents.

That is to say, each member of the triad traverses the adoption journey haunted, as it were, by spirits of "would have's" "could have's" and "should have's"---those beings they imagine they could have had, or been--- if only their birth parents had raised them, if only they had not forsaken their birth children, if only they could have born biological children themselves.

At the time this book was first published, in 1973, this topic was still quite taboo. Adoptive children were supposed to be grateful for the new lives they had been given and never to look back, just as birth parents were supposed to give their children to those better suited to raise them than they, and as adoptive parents were to raise their new children and never reflect on the ones they might have had, if only....

But for all three members of the triad, and especially for the children, the ghost beings---who they might have been, and who their birth parents might have been---are powerful psychological forces with which, even today, the educational, medical and psychological communities are all too unfamiliar.

People assume that adoptive children (barring illnesses of any kind) will develop in the same ways as all other children, but as BJ Lifton shows us from her own upbringing, this is far from true. Such children carry other beings with them, secret selves, and secret birth parents, who live in their imaginations, and whom they need to discover and meet in order to develop a complete sense of self.

Herein, Lifton offers readers the very daring, candid observations she made concerning her own journey through self-discovery, the process of determining what it means to be adopted, and what it means to each and every adopted child to discover the biological roots from which they hail.

This book is superbly written, and should be required reading not only for adoptive parents, but for all members of the educational, psychological, social services and medical communities who ever come in contact with adopted children. Reading it was truly enlightening.

--Alyssa A. Lappen

Ddilonyne

Betty Jean Lifton describes the loneliness and isolation of an adopted child cut off from the knowledge of her heritage. Twice Born explores not only the difficulty of searching for one's past when records are sealed, but also the complexity of trying to reunite with the birth mother who abandoned her. It is a poignant story of mothering and the human need for origins.

Judith and Martin Land, "Adoption Detective: Memoir of an Adopted Child," listed Twice Born as a critical reference on page 276.

Judith Land, Author
Adoption Detective: Memoir of an Adopted Child